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5 Life-changing books YOU MUST READ in 2023
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독서는 좋은 것이지만, 일정 수준 이상 책을 읽으면 이후의 책들은 같은 내용이 반복되는 것처럼 느껴집니다. 그래서 한 권의 책을 여러 번 읽는 것이 여러 권의 책을 한 번 읽는 것보다 더 좋을 수 있습니다. 그러한 도서 다섯 권을 소개합니다.

1. Jonathan Haidt의 "The Happiness Hypothesis": 이 책은 인간의 행복과 만족감에 대한 연구와 인문학적인 이론, 심리학적인 실험, 철학적인 인사이트를 결합하여 제시하는 책입니다. 이 책은 여러분이 어떤 것이 인생에서 중요하다고 생각하는지에 대한 깊은 생각을 유도하며, 행복을 찾고 유지하는 방법에 대한 실용적인 조언을 제공합니다.

2. James Clear의 "Atomic Habits": 이 책은 습관의 형성과 유지에 관한 것입니다. 작은 습관의 변화가 큰 변화를 일으키는 것을 강조합니다. 이 책은 간단하고 구체적인 습관의 형성 방법을 제시하며, 우리가 무엇을 원하는지 알고 그것을 달성하기 위해 어떤 습관을 만들어야 하는지에 대한 인사이트를 제공합니다.

3. Dale Carnegie의 "How to Win Friends and Influence People": 이 책은 대인관계와 소통에 관한 것입니다. 이 책에서는 사람들을 어떻게 다루어야 하는지, 다른 사람들의 관점을 이해하고 존중하는 방법, 충돌 상황을 해결하는 방법 등을 다룹니다. 이 책은 대인관계를 향상시키는 데 도움이 되는 유용한 조언을 제공합니다.

4. Napoleon Hill의 "Think and Grow Rich": 이 책은 성공과 부의 이론을 다루고 있습니다. 이 책에서는 성공한 사람들의 경험과 전략을 분석하고, 그들이 성공하게 된 과정을 제시합니다. 이 책은 우리가 자신의 목표를 설정하고 그것을 달성하기 위해 노력하는 데 도움이 되는 조언을 제공합니다.

5. Robert Cialdini의 "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion": 이 책은 사람들이 왜 어떤 것을 사고, 어떤 것을 믿게 되는지에 대해 다루고 있습니다. 이 책에서는 사람들의 행동을 조종하는 데 사용되는 여러 가지 심리학적 전략을 분석하고, 이를 이용하여 다른 사람들을 설득하는 방법을 제시합니다. 이 책은 비즈니스, 마케팅, 정치 등 다양한 분야에서 유용한 인사이트를 제공합니다.

 

 

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독자가 리더라는 말을 들어본 적이 있나요?
더 많이 배울수록 더 많은 것을 얻을 수 있습니다.
저도 어느 정도는 동의합니다.
예전에는 사람들이 추천하는 모든 책을 사서
모든 책을 사서 종교적으로 읽곤 했죠.
그러다 많은 책들이 거의 같은 말을 하고 있다는 것을 깨달았죠.
한 권의 책을 다섯 번 읽는 것보다
한 권의 책을 다섯 번 읽는 게 낫다고 생각해요.
지금 무슨 생각을 하고 계신지 알아요.
클라크, 나한테 새 책을 추천해줘야지
새 책을 추천해줄 거잖아.
네, 하지만 이 다섯 권을 계속 반복해서 읽어야 한다면
이 책들을 다시 읽고 또 읽을 거예요.
그래서 이 비디오에서는 5달러에 대해 살펴볼 것입니다.
속이지 마세요, 속이지 마세요, 여러분, 보지 마세요.
제가 하나하나 설명해드리면서
큰 카후나를 하나씩 줄 거야
그러니 아하와 약간의 미리보기로
미리 보는 거죠, 알겠죠?
첫 번째 책은
조나단 하이츠의 '행복 가설'입니다.
사람들을 행복하게 만드는 10가지 아이디어는 무엇일까요?
이 책을 다시 읽으면서 얻은 엄청난 아이디어는
이 책을 다시 읽으면서 얻은 한 가지 큰 생각은 궁극적인 자유가
당신을 엄청나게 비참하게 만들 수 있다는 것입니다.
역설처럼 들릴 수도 있겠지만
왜냐하면 여러분들 중 일부는 지금
좋아하지 않는 일을 하고 있잖아요
내가 9시부터 5시까지 출근하지 않았다면
하루 종일 Zoom 미팅을 열지 않는다면,
훨씬 더 행복할 거예요, 클락
또는 어떤 사람들은 연애를 하면서
연애를 하지 않는다면
궁극적인 자유가 굉장할 거라고 생각하죠.
어디에 적용하든 상관없어요.
이 책에서는 한 연구에 대해 이야기합니다.
제가 흥미롭게 생각한 한 가지 지배적인 요인은
사람들의 자살률을 조사한 연구입니다.
그 지배적인 요인이 무엇인지 아십니까?
자살할 가능성이 더 높거나 낮은 사람들이
자살할 가능성이 더 높거나
제약이 있었기 때문이죠,
자신 외부의 무언가를
제약이 있었기 때문입니다.
만약 우리가 아무런 책임이 없다면,
다시 말해 우리가 완전히 자유롭다면,
완전히 비참해질 수도 있습니다.
저는 개인적인 경험을 통해 이 사실을 잘 알고 있습니다.
제가 직장을 그만두고 엄마의 지하실에서 지냈을 때,
3만 달러의 빚이 있었죠,
저는 완전히 자유로웠어요.
하지만 저는 매일 일어나면서 이렇게 생각했죠.
이 사업을 제대로 시작해야겠다고
엄청난 불안감에 시달렸죠
왜냐하면 저는 처음부터 다시 시작해야 하니까요,
세상에 이렇게 많은 자유가 있는데
하지만 어디서부터 시작해야 할까?
그러다 머릿속이 빙글빙글 돌고 어쩌고저쩌고 하죠.
실제로 돌아가서
아르바이트를 하고 나서야
중학교 카운슬러로 일하면서
제게 몇 가지 제약이 생겼어요,
일주일에 20, 30시간씩
이 사업을 할 수 있었어요
하루에 12시간, 18시간씩 일하는 대신에
이 사업에만 집중할 수 있게 되었죠,
5시간 정도밖에 없었어요.
그래서 제약이 있었지만 생산성은 더 높았습니다.
요양원에 대해 이야기합니다.
알다시피, 동물이나 식물처럼 간단한 것을 가진 환자들은
동물이나 식물처럼 매일 물을 주는 것만 있으면
병에 걸리거나 일찍 죽을 확률이 훨씬 적습니다.
그들에게는 돌봐야 할 무언가가 있고 이유가 있습니다.
그리고 책 전체가 그런 아이디어를 다루고 있습니다.
우리가 원한다고 생각하지만
사실 과학은 이런 것을 원한다고 말합니다.
내가 하고 싶은 대로만 하는 건
항상 나, 나, 나, 나, 나만이 행복의 열쇠라는 함정에 빠지지 마세요.
그것은 쾌락주의적일 수 있고 성취감이 부족할 수 있습니다.
자기 자신만을 위해 살면
결국 지루해지기 마련이죠.
다른 사람을 위해 사는 것, 제약이 있는 것
실제로 건강하고 과학적으로 입증되었습니다.
당신을 행복하게 만드는 올바른 제약이죠.
좋아요, 계속하죠.
다음에는 소품이 필요합니다.
대부분의 사람들은 습관을 바꾸려고 할 때
전술을 생각하죠
읽을 책을 줘요.
기술을 알려주세요.
어떤 명상을 할까요?
어떤 표현 기법?
올해 이 채널을 보셨다면
제가 깨달은 것은
그것들이 가장 중요하지 않다는 것입니다.
바로 여기입니다.
그리고 당신은 이렇게 말했죠, 클라크, 책은 어디 있어요?
곧 나올 거예요.
전희가 필요해요
그냥 서두르면 안 돼요.
대부분의 사람들은 변화를 3에서 1로 접근합니다.
난 몇 가지 행동을 취할 거야
내 신념이나 내면의 이야기가 바뀌길 바라고
그리고 그것이 충분히 오래 지속되기를 바랍니다,
내 정체성이 바뀔 거라고 생각하죠.
하지만 인생의 진정한 변화는
하나, 둘, 셋이 될 때 일어납니다.
정체성 수준에서 자신을 다시 배선합니다.
그리고 새로운 정체성을 채택합니다.
이를 미리 만들어야 합니다.
자신의 이야기를 뒤집고
그러면 행동이 일치하게 됩니다.
다시 말해, 이것이 변화의 비결입니다.
정체성 경로.
대부분의 사람들은 이렇게 합니다.
왜 갇혀 있는지 궁금해합니다.
이해가 되시나요?
이 사실을 깨닫게 해준 책이 있습니다,
바로 여기 네 번째 책인 원자 습관입니다.
제임스 클리어입니다.
댓글에 달린 모든 사람들이 이 책을 읽으라고 했어요.
이 책이 나온 후 1년 동안
그래서 읽어야겠다고 생각했죠.
그리고 마침내 읽었을 때 저는 이렇게 생각했습니다,
맙소사, 정말 좋은 책이네요.
하지만 바로 여기에 이런 내용이 나와 있습니다.
목표는 담배를 줄이는 것, 행동을 멈추는 것이 아닙니다.
목표는 비흡연자가 되는 것입니다.
목표는 운동화를 신지 않고
마라톤을 뛰는 것이 아닙니다.
이제 목표는 러너가되는 것입니다.
이 책에서 제임스 클리어는 모든 행동은 당신이 되고 싶은 사람에 대한 투표라고 말합니다.
투표라고 말합니다.
저는 오늘 여러분의 삶에서 그 프레임을 좋아합니다.
크든 작든 그것에 대해 생각해 보세요.
여러분이 하는 모든 행동,
또는 모든 생각이나 신념, 판단도 마찬가지입니다,
여러분이 되고 싶은 사람에게 한 표를 던지는 것입니다.
그리고 다시 한 번, 그 투표,
어떤 것에 대한 충분한 증거를 수집하면
여러분의 정체성 수준에 영향을 미칩니다.
따라서 두 가지 방법으로 접근할 수 있습니다.
먼저 정체성을 만들고
그런 다음 우리가 원하는 사람에 대한 투표를 시작하고
투표를 시작하고 이를 강화할 수 있습니다.
정말 놀라운 것은 대부분의 사람들이 이 사실을 깨닫지 못하고
자신에 대한 투표를 한다는 것입니다.
자신이 하고 싶은 일과 자신이 되고 싶은 사람에 대해
그리고 어떤 사람이 되고 싶다고 말하는 것과 일치하지 않는 투표를 한다는 것입니다.
그래서 많은 사람들이
인생에 이런 병이 나타나는 거죠?
격차가 있죠.
내가 생각하는 나 자신과
내가 지금 여기서 하고 있는 일이요.
그리고 그 격차가 클수록
내면의 불쾌감이 커지고
우울증이 더 심해질 수 있습니다,
스트레스, 불안, 지나친 생각, 사기꾼 증후군이 생길 수 있습니다.
그래서 비결은 정체성을 바꾸고, 다시 배선해서
그리고 바로 여기서 이 간극을 좁히는 것입니다.
일단 그렇게 하면
일어나서 삶을 살아가고 멋진 기분을 느끼기가 정말 쉬워집니다.
자신이 하는 일과 실제로 하는 일이 일치하기 때문입니다.
실제로 하고 있는 일과 일치하기 때문입니다.
이해가 되시나요?
톰 맥캐빗의 훌륭한 책이 있습니다.
더 알고 싶으시다면
우리의 정체성 변화 과정에 대해
다시 한 번 말씀드리지만
이것이 바로 저희의 전체 변형 코칭 프로그램입니다.
아래 링크를 통해 짧은 동영상을 시청하실 수 있습니다.
가입할 필요 없이 무료입니다.
그리고 이와 같은 내용에 대해 좀 더 자세히 설명합니다.
물론 신청하고 싶으시면,
언제든지 신청하세요.
그리고 잘 맞는다면
제가 전화로 연락해서 더 자세히 얘기해볼게요.
2020년은 재정적으로 정말 힘든 한 해였습니다.
주식 시장을 보신 분이 계신지 모르겠네요.
방금 보니까 미국 전체 달러의 35% 정도가
2020년 마지막 6개월 동안에 찍혔다고 들었어요
그런 것 같더라고요.
2020년의 재정적 관점에서 보면
많은 사람들에게 최고의 시기이자 최악의 시기였습니다.
최악의 시기였습니다.
많은 사람들이 일자리를 잃었고
하지만 많은 사람들이 더럽고 냄새나는 부자가 되었죠.
올바른 곳에 투자했다면 말이죠.
투자, 저축, 재정적 안정,
우리가 지루하다고 생각하는 모든 것들이
그렇게 복잡하지 않다는 것을 깨달았습니다.
게임을 알아야 사람들과 함께할 수 있습니다.
부자들이나 엘리트들만 하는 거라고 생각하지 마세요.
엘리트들만 하는 거라고 생각하지 마세요.
사실 이 시스템은 규칙만 알면 누구나 쉽게 이길 수 있도록
누구나 이길 수 있는 시스템입니다.
여기서 잔소리를 하려는 건 아닙니다,
제가 시애틀에 사는 누군가와 얘기하는 것처럼요
정치적 신념과 상관없이 시애틀에서 누군가와 이야기하는 것처럼요.
하지만 엄청 파란색이죠.
그래서 어떤 여자와 얘기하고 있는데
부자들이 주식을 갖고 있으면서
부자들이 주식을 가지고 있고 너무 사악하다고 불평하고 있었어요.
그래서 제가 생각했죠
당신도 주식 시장에 투자할 수 있잖아요.
소득 상한선이 있는 것도 아니잖아요.
AMC 주식을 8달러에 살 수도 있고
애플이나 테슬라의 주식을 8달러에 살 수도 있고, 이제는 일부만 살 수도 있습니다.
제 요점은 그것에 겁먹지 말라는 것입니다.
그래서 제가 말씀드리는 겁니다,
세 번째 책에 대해 아주 장황하게 설명했습니다,
부자가 되는 법을 가르쳐 드리겠습니다.
라밋 사디아, 제가 이 책을 추천한 건
아마 몇 년 전부터요.
이 책에는 몇 가지 규칙이 더 들어 있죠?
10년, 20년, 30년 후를 위해
10년, 20년, 30년 후에도
잘 살 수 있도록요.
엄청난 똑똑함이 필요하지도 않고
엄청난 수입도 필요하지 않습니다.
엄청난 절제력이 필요합니다.
백만 달러를 벌어서 씁니다,
얼마를 벌었나요?
제로, 어, 두사그.
10만 달러를 벌고 4만 달러를 저축하는 것이 더 낫습니다.
당신은 연말에 더 부자가됩니다.
백만 달러를 벌고 백만 달러를 쓴 사람보다.
돈을 버는 것이 중요한 게 아닙니다,
얼마나 오래 간직하고 있느냐가 중요합니다.
이 책이 그 점을 강조하고 있다는 점이 마음에 듭니다.
정말 실용적인 방법을 제시하고
장기적으로 복리를 사용하여 영향을 미칠 수 있습니다.
이 책이 그렇게 좋으면 클라크, 결혼하지 그래요?
우와, 우와, 우와, 우와.
두 번째 책, 이게 뭔지 알죠?
책이라기보단 과정에 가깝죠.
능동적인 형태로 할 수있는 일입니다.
인생에 어떤 시점이 오면
스스로에게 잔인할 정도로 솔직해져야 해요
스스로에게 잔인하게 정직해야 하는 시점이 오죠.
정보를 소비하고 있다는 것을 깨닫고 스스로에게 솔직해져야 할 때가 있습니다.
독서, 코칭, 비디오, 세미나, 동기 부여,
교육처럼 보이죠?
그럴 수도 있습니다.
하지만 여기에 적용하지 않는다면,
결실이 나타나지 않는다면,
정말 그게 뭔가요?
바로 엔터테인먼트입니다.
어느 순간 많은 사람들과 만나다 보면
잔인할 정도로 솔직하게 말하자면 저에게도 이런 점이 있습니다,
우리는 교육에 너무 많은 시간을 투자해서
교육에 너무 많은 시간을 투자합니다.
팟캐스트는 하루 종일 들을 수 있지만
하루 종일 들을 수 있죠?
하지만 팟캐스트가 객관적으로 여러분의 삶을 개선하지 않는다면,
그것은 정말 오락일 뿐입니다.
이 모든 잠재력을 실현하기 위해
이 모든 잠재력을 발휘할 수 있도록
이 모든 잠재력을 활용하기 위해 스위치를 어디로 돌릴까요?
그리고 실제로 우리 삶에 적용하여 혜택을 볼 수 있을까요?
바로 이 지점을 넘기려면 도구가 필요합니다.
제가 찾은 최고의 도구입니다,
진지하게 받아들이고
올해 한 번 시도해 보세요,
바로 여기 있습니다,
바로 여기 있는 8절 11절 11절 스케치북입니다.
이제 이에 대한 궁극적인 가이드를 게시했습니다.
올해는 아래에 링크를 걸거나
2초면 찾을 수 있습니다.
방금 멤버들에게
제 변혁 코칭 프로그램에 대해
멤버들에게 이야기하고 있었어요.
이것이 지금 우리의 큰 주제와 같습니다.
수많은 사람, 수많은 목소리, 수많은 인플루언서, 그렇죠?
그들은 여러분에게 영향을 주려고 합니다.
그렇게 하려고 노력하죠.
여러분은 답을 찾습니다.
자신 밖을 바라봅니다.
하지만 우리는 얼마나 자주 멈춰서 그들의 목소리에 귀를 기울일까요?
그것은 강력한 힘입니다.
답을 찾지 말고
이제 그 답을 듣기 시작할 때입니다.
그러면 여러분의 삶이 마침내 교육의 잠재력에서
인생의 전환점을 맞이하게 될 겁니다.
엔터테인먼트에서 행동으로, 그 간극을 좁히세요.
첫 번째 책, 이건 고민이 많았어요.
두 권을 드릴게요
한 권은 뭐야, 이게 뭐야?
그 책부터 시작하죠.
전 이 책을 정말 좋아하고 싶지 않았어요
어반 아웃피터스' 같은 데서 봤는데
그 책을 읽는 밀레니얼 세대처럼
밀레니얼 세대가 그 책을 읽는 것처럼요.
하지만 표지만 보고 판단해서는 안 되겠죠?
정말 흥미진진하게 읽었어요.
아포라이트를 주지 않는 기술, 마크 맨슨.
정말 재미있고 가벼운 책이었어요
자기계발에 관한 책이었는데
그리고 이런 아이디어들이
우리가 방금 일기장에 썼던 그 호언장담은
예술이나
또는 자신을 향상시키는 과학,
그 뒤에 숨어있는 좋은 의도는
그래, 난 더 나아질 거야, 그렇지?
하지만 적용하지 않으면
머릿속에 해야 할 일만 가득하고
스스로를 채찍질하고 자책하고
그리고 실천하지 않기 때문에 죄책감을 느끼게 됩니다.
어떤 일이 긍정적인 의도를 가지고 있다고 해도,
그것이 우리에게 긍정적이라는 것을 의미하지는 않습니다.
좋아요, 여기까지만 하겠습니다.
그 책 정말 굉장했어요.
이 책에 대한 서평도 있습니다.
저희 채널에서 찾을 수 있습니다.
에서 서평을 찾아보실 수 있습니다.
다시 한 번 말씀드리지만
나 자신이 되는 습관을 깨는 것 사이입니다,
조다 스펜자는 이 책에서 '명상'에 대해 많이 이야기합니다,
명상, 맞죠?
어떤 사람들은 명상을 좋아하고
어떤 사람들은 그것을 싫어합니다.
저도 한동안 싫어하는 쪽에 속해 있었어요.
명상의 이점을 몰랐다는 건 아니지만
명상하는 법에 관한 책만 10권 정도 읽었어요
그리고 마침내
마침내 앉아서 꾸준히 할 수 있을 만큼
앉아서 꾸준히 할 수 있었어요.
지금도 명상을 하는 데 어려움을 겪고 있습니다.
하지만 이 책처럼 과학적 근거가 있는 명상은
이 책이 제공하는 것처럼
저처럼 분석적인 성향의 사람이라면
어떤 일을 하는 이유를 알고 싶을 텐데요,
이 책이 그 이유를 알려줍니다.
8주 정도면 충분합니다,
하루에 12분씩 명상하는 것만으로도
뇌와 뇌를 재구성하는 데
뇌와 신경 경로를 재구성할 수 있습니다.
뇌의 공감 중추와 같은
공감 중추처럼
더 사랑스럽고
더 자비롭고, 더 인내심 있고
다른 경로들은 조금씩 줄어들기 시작합니다.
편도체처럼 싸움이나 도피에 관여하는 부분이 조금씩 줄어들기 시작하죠?
또는 판단 중추와 같은 모든 것들,
뇌에서 그것에 기여하는 부분이 무엇이든
뇌의 어떤 부분이든 감소합니다.
명상을 해야 하는 이유에 대한 과학적 근거를 알고 싶으시다면
명상이 어떻게 도움이 되는지 알고 싶다면
2.0 버전으로 전환하는 데 어떻게 도움이되는지 알고 싶다면이 책은 환상적입니다.
약간 밀도가 높습니다.
당신이 정말로 좋아해야하는 부분이 있습니다.
주의를 기울여야 하는 부분이 있어요,
집중해야 하는 부분도 있죠.
그럼에도 불구하고 저는 이 책이 매력적이라고 생각합니다.
다시 한 번 말씀드리지만, 이 채널에 책 요약이 있습니다.
이 채널에 책 요약이 있습니다,
정말 몰입하고 싶은 책인지 확인하고 싶다면
책인지 확인해보세요.
아래에 올해 읽고 싶은 책이나
올해 읽고 싶거나 다른 사람에게 추천하고 싶은 책을 아래에 댓글로 남겨주세요.
아래 댓글로 알려주세요.
코칭에 대해 더 자세히 알고 싶으세요?
동영상을 시청하고 아래에서 신청하세요.
여기까지입니다.
안주하지 말고 삶을 시작하세요.
또 뵙겠습니다.

 

SMALL

[ English Summary ]

Reading is a good thing, but after a certain level of reading, subsequent books feel like a repetition of the same thing. That's why reading one book multiple times can be better than reading multiple books once. Here are five such books.

1. "The Happiness Hypothesis" by Jonathan Haidt: This book combines research on human happiness and contentment with humanistic theories, psychological experiments, and philosophical insights. It's a thought-provoking look at what you think is important in life and offers practical advice on how to find and maintain happiness.

2."Atomic Habits" by James Clear: This book is about the formation and maintenance of habits, emphasizing that small changes in habits make a big difference. The book offers simple, concrete ways to form habits and provides insight into knowing what we want and what habits we need to create to achieve it.

3."How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie: This book is all about interpersonal relationships and communication: how to deal with people, how to understand and respect other people's perspectives, and how to resolve conflict situations. This book offers great advice to help you improve your interpersonal skills.

4."Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill: This book deals with the theory of success and wealth. The book analyzes the experiences and strategies of successful people and presents how they became successful. The book offers advice to help us set our own goals and work towards achieving them.

5."Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion" by Robert Cialdini: This book is about why people buy certain things and believe certain things. It analyzes the different psychological strategies used to manipulate people's behavior and shows how to use them to persuade others. This book provides useful insights in a variety of fields, including business, marketing, and politics.

[ English Full Text ]

You ever heard the saying that readers are leaders?
The more you learn, the more you earn.
I agree with that to a point.
It used to be that I would just buy every single book
that people recommended and read it religiously.
And then I realized a lot of them kind of say the same thing.
I almost think it's better to read one book five times
than five books one time.
And I know what you're thinking right now.
You're like, well, Clark, you're gonna recommend
to me new books.
Yeah, but if I had to read these five over and over again,
these are the ones I would reread and do go back to.
And so in this video, we are going over the five bucks.
Don't cheat, don't cheat, guys, don't look.
I'm gonna lay out each one and I'm also gonna give you
a big kahuna joint takeaway from each.
So you get some ahas and a little preview
of what you're getting yourself into, all right?
Very first book we got,
Jonathan Heights, The Happiness Hypothesis.
What 10 ideas actually work to make people happy?
One massive idea I get from this book
as I was rereading it is that ultimate freedom
can make you freaking miserable, okay?
Now I know this sounds like a paradox
because some of you are in jobs right now
that you don't like and you're like,
well, if I didn't go to that nine to five
or open the freaking Zoom meetings all day,
I'd be a lot happier, Clark.
Or some people, you know, they're in relationships
and they think ultimate freedom would be awesome
if they weren't.
Whatever you wanna apply that to.
In this book, it talks about one study
that I found fascinating, one dominant factor
that looked at suicide rates amongst people.
You know what that dominant factor was?
Constraints that the people who are more likely
or less likely to off themselves,
it came down to having constraints,
having something outside of themself
that they were responsible for.
That if we don't have any responsibilities,
in other words, if we're totally free,
we can also be totally miserable.
I know this from personal experience.
When I quit my job and I was in my mom's basement,
30 grand in debt, like technically,
I was absolutely free.
But I would wake up every day like thinking
I had to start this business right
with this overwhelming crippling anxiety
because I'm like, well, I'm starting from scratch,
I have all this freedom in the world,
but where do I even start?
And then your head gets spinning and blah, blah, blah, blah.
It wasn't until I actually went back
and took a part-time job working
as a middle school counselor with kids
that gave me some constraints,
took up 20, 30 hours a week
that I was able to do this business
because now instead of having 12 or 18 hours a day
to just work on this business, right,
I only had about five.
So I had constraints and I was more productive.
Talks about in nursing homes.
You know, patients who have something as simple
as an animal or even a plant to water every day,
they're much less likely to get illnesses or die early.
They have something to take care of, they have a reason.
And the whole book kind of goes over some ideas like that
where we think we want this,
but actually science says it's this.
Don't fall into the trap that doing anything you want
all the time, me, me, me, me, me is the key to happiness.
That could be hedonistic and lack fulfillment
because if you're just living for yourself,
eventually that's gonna get boring.
Living for others, having constraints
is actually healthy and scientifically proven.
The right ones to make you happy.
Okay, moving on.
We need a prop for this next one.
When most people go about change, habits,
they think about tactics.
Give me the books to read.
Give me the techniques.
What meditation to do?
What manifestation technique?
If you've watched this channel this year
and something I came to realize
is that those are the least important.
This right here.
And you're like, Clark, where's the book?
It's coming.
Let me tell you, you need foreplay.
You can't just rush into things.
Most people approach change from three to one.
I'm gonna take some actions
and I hope it changes my beliefs or my stories inside
and then hopefully if it lasts long enough,
I'll change my identity.
But real change in your life happens
when you go one, two, three.
At the identity level, you rewire yourself.
Okay, and you adopt a new identity.
You create this ahead of time.
It knocks over your stories
and then your actions fall in alignment.
In other words, this is the secret to change.
The identity route.
Most people go like this
and they wonder why they're stuck.
Does that make sense?
One book that opened my eyes to this, right,
is our fourth book right here, Atomic Habits.
James Clear.
Everyone in the comments were telling me to read this
for probably a year since it came out
and I was like, I'll get to it.
And then I finally did and I was like,
holy moly, that's a great book.
But it talks about this right here.
The goal is not to stop reducing cigarettes, actions.
The goal is to become a non-smoker.
The goal is not to put on your running shoes
and run a marathon.
Now the goal is to become a runner.
In the book, James Clear says that every action is a vote
for the person that you want to become.
So I love that frame in your life today.
Think about that, big or small.
Every action you do,
or you could say every thought or belief or judgment,
cast a vote for the person that you want to become.
And again, those votes,
if you collect enough evidence for something,
they influence your identity level.
So we can approach this of two ways.
We can create this identity
and then start casting votes for the person
we want to be and reinforce it in.
And what's really crazy is most people don't realize this
and they cast votes against themselves
out of alignment with what they say they want to do
and who they want to become.
And that's why a lot of people
have this ick in their life show up, right?
There's a gap.
It's like who I view myself as
and what I'm actually doing right here.
And the bigger this gap is,
the more ick we feel inside,
the more depression can creep in,
stress, anxiety, overthinking, imposter syndrome.
So the secret is changing your identity, rewiring it
and closing this gap right here.
Once you do that,
it's really easy to get up and live life and feel awesome
because you're an integrity with what you say you're doing
and what you're actually doing.
Does that make sense?
Tom McCabbitt's great book.
And if you want to know more
about like our identity shifting process,
again, to influence this,
this is what our whole metamorphic coaching program is.
I'll link down below a quick little video that you can watch.
It's free, no sign up required.
And it goes a bit deeper into stuff like this.
And then of course, if you want to apply,
please feel free to do so.
And if it's a good fit,
I'll hop on the phone with you and we'll just talk more.
2020 was a crazy year for finances.
I don't know if any of you saw the stock market, right?
Just went, I also heard like something 35% of all US dollars
got printed in like the last six months of 2020
or something like that.
From a financial standpoint in 2020,
it was the best of times and the worst of times
for a lot of people.
A lot of people lost their jobs,
but a lot of people got filthy, stinking rich
and if you had your investments in the right place.
Realized that investing, saving money, financial security,
all the stuff that we view as kind of like boring
or too complex, isn't as complex as it is.
You just got to know the game so you can join people
instead of saying, oh, that's just for like rich people
or elite people.
The system's actually set up for pretty much anyone to win
if you know the rules.
I don't mean to rant here,
but like I was talking to someone in Seattle,
where I'm from, regardless of political beliefs, right?
But it's super blue.
And so I'm talking to this woman
and she's just complaining about how the rich
and they have stocks and they're so evil.
And I was like, wait,
you know you can invest in the stock market too.
It's not like there's an income cap.
You can buy a fricking share of AMC for eight bucks
or Apple or Tesla or now you can even buy partial shares.
My point is don't be intimidated by it.
And so I am telling you that,
that is very long-winded way of saying our third book,
I Will Teach You To Be Rich.
Ramit Sadia, I've been recommending this one
probably a couple of years now.
And this really goes into some more of those rules, right?
Of how to kind of set yourself up
for 10, 20, 30 years from now,
so that you're gonna be well off.
It doesn't require insane amount of smarts
or even insane amounts of income.
It requires insane amounts of discipline.
You make a million dollars and you spend it,
how much did you make?
Zero, eh, doosag.
It's better off to make 100,000, save 40.
You are richer at the end of the year
than that person who made a million and spent a million.
It's not about the money you make,
it's about the money you keep.
And I love that this book emphasizes that
and gives you really practical ways
to influence it using compounding in the long term.
If you love it so much, Clark, why don't you marry it?
Mwah, mwah, mwah, mwah.
Book number two, you know what this is.
Not a book, but more of a process.
Something that you can do in active form.
There comes a point in your life
where you realize and you have to be brutally honest
with yourself if like, I'm consuming info
out of education, which it seems like.
Reading, coaching, videos, seminars, motivation,
that seems like education, right?
And it can be.
But if we're not applying it over here,
if you don't have fruits to show for it,
what is it really?
It's entertainment.
At a certain point I find with a lot of people,
just to be brutally honest, and I have this in myself,
we spend so much time in education
that it becomes entertainment.
You can listen to podcasts all day long
thinking they're educational, right?
But if they're not making your life better objectively,
it really is entertainment.
Where do we flip the switch
towards having all this potential over here
of education that we have in our brain, right?
And really applying it in our life to see the benefits?
Well, you need a tool to cross this right here.
The best tool I've ever found,
and I would implore you to take seriously
and just give it a shot this year,
is this right here,
eight by 11 1 1 1 1 1 sketchbook right here, our journal.
Now we posted the ultimate guide to it.
This year I'll link down below
or you can just find it, takes two seconds.
I was just telling the members
of my metamorphic coaching program
where we meet live and do calls and stuff.
This is like our big theme right now.
So many people, so many voices, so many influencers, right?
They're trying to influence you.
They're trying to do that.
You look for answers.
You look outside of yourself.
But how often do we ever stop and listen for them?
That's powerful.
Stop looking for the answers
and maybe it's time to start listening for them.
And I think you'll see your life finally flip the switch
from potential of education, right?
Entertainment to action, closing that gap.
Number one book, this was a toss up.
I have two that I'll give you
and one is kind of like, what the heck?
And I guess we'll start with that.
I really didn't want to like this book as much as I did
because I saw it in like Urban Outfitters
and I'm like, I don't want to be that cliche,
like millennial reading that book.
But I mean, don't judge it by its cover, right?
I was so stoked I read this.
Art of not giving an aphorite, Mark Manson.
And it was just a really fun, lighthearted read
all about kind of self-development
and how these ideas,
what that rant we just went on with the journal
pretty much, like the arts
or the science of improving yourself,
the good intention behind that is like,
yeah, I'm gonna be better, right?
But if we never apply it,
we just have these to-dos in our head
that we turn on ourself and we beat ourselves up
and we feel guilty on because we're not applying it.
That even if something has a positive intent,
doesn't mean it's positive for us.
Okay, so I'll leave it at that.
That book was awesome.
Also have a book review of this
that you can find on our channel
if you just search, pop right up.
Again, the toss up is between that
and breaking the habit of being yourself,
Joda Spenza talks a lot about the M word in here,
meditation, right?
And I know like some people love it.
Some people hate it.
And I've been in the hate camp for a while.
Not that I didn't see the benefits of it,
but it took me like 10 books of how to meditate.
Okay, and getting it all right
before I finally had the enough willpower
to sit down and do it consistently.
And like something I struggle with to this day is meditation.
But I find that having some science behind it,
like this book gives you,
if you're analytically wired like myself,
you wanna know the why behind you do something,
this book breaks it down.
Something as little as like eight weeks,
12 minutes a day, just meditating
can have significant like insane benefits
to rewiring your brain and their neural pathways.
Places of your brain start lighting up
like the empathy centers,
the parts that make you more loving,
more compassionate, more patient
and other pathways start kind of reducing a little bit
like your amygdala, which is the fight or flight, right?
Or all these like judgemental centers,
whatever parts are contributing to that
in the brain kind of reduce.
So if you want some science behind why you should meditate
or just like how that can help you kind of shift
into the 2.0 version of yourself, book is fantastic.
It is a little dense.
There are some parts where you really gotta like
pay attention, you can't just be like, you know,
kind of zoning out.
I find nevertheless is to be fascinating.
And again, we have a book summary on this channel
if you wanna just get a quick overview of it,
see if it's a book before you really dive in
that you wanna commit to.
Comment down below with your number one book
that you wanna read this year or you'd recommend to others.
I wanna know in the comments down below.
You wanna learn more about our coaching,
feel free to watch the video and apply down below.
That's it for me.
Stop settling, start living.
See ya.